Disclaimer – when I mention “us or we” I am refering to those who consider themselves as “grown ups” – irrespective of age.
Recently I got the opportunity to be one of the official photographers at a school annual day event. While taking photographs of small kids – both girls and boys, I found them to be really enthusiastic of getting themselves clicked, they gave their best smiles, posed gleefully infront of the lens. As the age group kept increasing, the students of higher classes were more conscious about getting clicked, some turned their faces away and some were not willing to get clicked. And this trend was almost as proportional as the increasing age group. It was nothing to do with the generation – it was more to do with the age.
I pondered over this usual yet thought-provoking phenomena – why the smaller kids were open to being photographed and not the grown-ups? Why the elder students were without the innocence so replete in the smaller chidren? Why the smaller chidren so full of zest and enegy!
Carefree and Happy to be clicked. Photographed at The Mother’s International School Annual Function – 2016 by Deepanjan.
why the smaller kids were open to being photographed and not the grown-ups?
As I kept on wondering and pondering I realised – There is a child in us but we have suppressed it so much to behave as “adults”. We tend to ignore it owing to our pretentious self. This child keeps calling us from time to time, keeps talking to us, keeps complimenting us for our successes as well as cautions us, it keeps suggesting us to let go off our ego, our vices, our misconceptions and be free. From somewhere deep down it wants to tell us to be a kid again, a child – carefree, simple yet determined to have fun.
Putting their happiest self. Photographed at The Mother’s International School Annual Function – 2016 by Deepanjan
From somewhere deep down it wants to tell us to be a kid again, a child – carefree, simplified yet determined to have fun.
Remember the days when we we went to school, we studied, we tried to follow the rules set by the school, tried our very best to discipline ourselves and yet have fun, so much fun! Yes we were bold sometimes to cross the limits and used to be suitably reprimanded for that. We had quick solutions for the situations that approached us, because our mind was agile, unassuming, simple and without complications. As we grew old we drew complexity in ourselves and then in our thoughts and actions. We all know that thoughts are precursors to our actions.
Innocence lost – Elder students unwilling to get clicked.
In our daily lives we come across situations which make us lose this naive yet immaculate child in us, we pretend, we perceive things with a narrow vision, and this creates multiple thoughts in our mind, multiple dimensions and we fail to see the most simple and the most practical solution to the situations we confront daily. Do you remember when we were a kid, we hardly complained about problems but instead we demanded things not available to us – a toy, a sharpener, a new school bag, a comic? So rather than complaining about the situation we demanded what we needed. The big difference between what we did then and now is that then we had the solution in mind and now we have the complaints and the complexities of mind. That’s the wisdom of a child – they never complain about the situation, they mould themselves into the situation and demand what they need.
That’s the wisdom of a child – they never complain about the situation, they mould themselves into the situation and demand what they need.
When I see children – in schools, in parks, in shops I realise that how simple they are – it is the adult world around which spoils them, teach them to bring complexities, more viewpoints, more dimensions et cetera. And it is because of these false and misplaced complexities we have the troubles pervading our own selves, our families, our societies, our countries and the world all over.
If you ever see a child smiling while they are asleep, ask yourself – “When is the last time you slept so peacefully?”
There is a lot to learn from the child in us. Don’t let it fade into oblivion….